Self Esteem = Image
For the third and final instalment of this series I have decided to talk about how the Expectations of Others effect our self esteem.
When people describe someone they not only include what they look like, and who they hang out with, they also describe what their achievements are. They may also include the expectations they have for that person, stating their very own preconceived notions about them.
If you had 4 Sallys in your grade, you may refer to one as the Popular Sally, one as the Plain Sally, one as the Sporty Sally, and one as the Smart Sally. In that list the Sallys are all described by your most prominent preconceived notion of who they are. However, 5 years down the track Plain Sally might not be so plain anymore, and Sporty Sally might be more into her science fiction movies. But our notions or image of them doesn't always change with them.
We are often described by other's first impressions. As I have said before, what others say or don't say has a very large effect on our self esteem.
But wasn't this post supposed to be about how other people's expectations effect our self esteem. Well it still is, you see the expectations that others have of us are fueled by their first impressions.
Most people make known their expectations of us. Since we are people who aim to please, we automatically alter ourselves (or at least start second guessing our own goals and priorities) in such a way that fits their expectations.
But we do not need to do so, as long as we are trying our best to follow God's will, because in 2 Timothy 2:21 it says,
"Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonourable, he will be a vessel for honourable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work ."
In this verse we are told that no matter what our past is The Lord, in all His goodness, and love, can cleanse us from all our wrongs and use us to glorify Him in ways that are yet unknown to ourselves.
Remember that you are an amazing creation of God and that He has a wonderful plan for you. He wants to use you in such amazing ways!
Thanks and God bless!!!
~Wiggles
When people describe someone they not only include what they look like, and who they hang out with, they also describe what their achievements are. They may also include the expectations they have for that person, stating their very own preconceived notions about them.
If you had 4 Sallys in your grade, you may refer to one as the Popular Sally, one as the Plain Sally, one as the Sporty Sally, and one as the Smart Sally. In that list the Sallys are all described by your most prominent preconceived notion of who they are. However, 5 years down the track Plain Sally might not be so plain anymore, and Sporty Sally might be more into her science fiction movies. But our notions or image of them doesn't always change with them.
We are often described by other's first impressions. As I have said before, what others say or don't say has a very large effect on our self esteem. But wasn't this post supposed to be about how other people's expectations effect our self esteem. Well it still is, you see the expectations that others have of us are fueled by their first impressions.
Most people make known their expectations of us. Since we are people who aim to please, we automatically alter ourselves (or at least start second guessing our own goals and priorities) in such a way that fits their expectations.
But we do not need to do so, as long as we are trying our best to follow God's will, because in 2 Timothy 2:21 it says,
"Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonourable, he will be a vessel for honourable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good In this verse we are told that no matter what our past is The Lord, in all His goodness, and love, can cleanse us from all our wrongs and use us to glorify Him in ways that are yet unknown to ourselves.
Remember that you are an amazing creation of God and that He has a wonderful plan for you. He wants to use you in such amazing ways!
Thanks and God bless!!!
~Wiggles
P.S. Here are the links to Part One and Part Two of this Self Esteem Series: Self Esteem Part 1
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